adam-lambert%3Dtongue.jpgAdam-Lambert-cover.jpg Adam Lambert covers the November issue of The Advocate, and the 29-year-old pop star chats about everything from his controversial performance at the 2009 American Music Awards to his boyfriend Sauli Koskinen.

On his love life, Adam doesn't reveal too much, but he tells the mag that he met Sauli in a Helsinki bar after a concert, and they've been dating since last November. “You know, honestly, when you start talking so much about your relationship, it opens the door too much," he says. "I’ve only been in one major long-term relationship prior to this, and I’m really, really happy. It’s done a lot for me, and it’s grounded me, and it has inspired me as a writer as a performer. I just think everybody wants that connection, and I’m really happy to have found it.”

On his raunchy performance at the AMAs where simulated oral sex with a male backup dancer, Adam says, “[It was] a bit reactionary on my part. I think I was a little overwhelmed with everything. It was me reacting a little bit to that ‘you’re not gay enough’ thing. At that moment for whatever reason I was like, Well, is this gay enough? It was me being a little bit p*ssed off!”

“It’s been the weirdest battle with identifying as a gay man in mainstream culture,” he continues. “I think The Advocate is an exception — I think a respected gay publication treats it differently — but in regular journalism they make such a big deal out of homosexuality! I’m starting to grow really fond of the post-gay concept.”

So has he embraced his new lifestyle since shooting to stardom on American Idol? “It really is a dream job, and it’s really cool. I do stop and keep it all in perspective. This is pop music, and it’s not f***ing brain surgery. I mean, some of it’s serious…but some of it’s just really fun dance music. And I’m wearing eight pounds of makeup because I f***ing want to. Why not?” Loves it!

In case you can't remember what happened onstage back in 2009, click after the jump to check out Adam's controversial AMAs performance...